The thousand small things that have to be made is a women’s trap
When I had The children left at school, cut the claws of the dog and packed the bag in front of a daughter’s class trip, I brewed a cup of coffee and looked at the morning news.
I then thought of having my little sad graze to do a list of everything that needs to be done if you have three children in closing times, but instead ended up in Svenska Dagbladet, where the literary scholar and the author ended up Josefin de Gregorio written A long text About the so -driven “invisible list”. I read the text with great interest because this is a list that I am passionate about, which I have discussed a lot in my podcast and written about in the book “Pink Velvet”.
For those who Do not know the concept – the invisible list is a list of chores in the house that must be done to make a family work, but that nobody sees that you do and for which you will never receive thanks. In addition to being the most important thing to be a parent, give their children love and safety, you also have to cut a room, cut nails, go to the dentist, buy shampoo, make it out of clothing, make sure that patches, rubber boots, curtains, menstrual protection, lingerie, whole socks, passports, a floral are. The list can be made just as long and it is not written in stone that it is always women who do all of this, but according to the same authority, women still take responsibility for unpaid home and care work, in other words also the “invisible list”.
All the women I spoke to to recognize the invisible list. No man with whom I have spoken wants to admit it.
But it does the. And it’s a women’s trap. Ask you who in your relationship that knows the latest figures of your children in the personal number. My gamble is that the woman is in nine out of ten cases, the woman is, because it is the woman and not the man who does all the unimportant but still important, book tents for a son, orders class photos for a daughter. At the same time, the man stands by the grill and arranges the hamburgers for the cheer of the children.
What I read is ‘so it is to be a woman’
Because of course there is also a visible list. That list is usually male. It is the man who trains the son’s football team, who takes care of the bills that cuts the lawn, who buys a new car. There are the big things, the things that everyone sees in the family and shows gratitude. So unlike everything that contains the invisible list. The many small things that can be seen, deceived and perhaps unimportant, that can never be completely checked and that nobody sees or thanks for doing, but that takes time and power to perform and all the time it is something else that suffers – the paid work.
Josefin de Gregorio writes in -depth About the invisible list in her text, but something interesting seems to happen to her while writing. The more she thinks about the invisible list, the more convinced she seems to be that it is not worth noting. Eventually she gives it up, notes: “So it is to be human, it is to have a relationship.”
What I read is “so it’s to be a woman”. And the role and rights of women in society are something that I don’t take easily. And what I wonder is: should it be to have a relationship? Do we have to be happy with it?
Far too many women can’t even afford to differ
More than twice as many women as men work partially in Sweden and women run more than twice as high a risk of sick leave due to stress -related psychological disorders compared to men. My gamble is that there is a long, invisible list for these women who are difficult to catch up if you have a family and also work full -time. And what does this do in the extension? Well, women don’t earn as much money as men, can’t afford to invest in companies and receive a lower pension. This in turn means that women do not have that much power in their relationship, in society and in the world. Far too many women can’t even afford to differ. And now the OAG has noted that the government has taken insufficient measures to prevent financial violence in close relationships.
In the book “One’s Own Room” investigates Virginia Woolf The opportunities for a woman to write a novel, which you can translate into every profession you have to admit, and her conclusion is – money and her own room. It is both boring and embarrassing to talk about money, but unfortunately it is of the utmost importance when it comes to equality. The invisible list contains many small but important components for a family to work and only so I think you should think when it comes to the solution for women to become the same men. Making the invisible list visible is a small but important part of the struggle for women to get the opportunity to make money, go to their profession and gain more power.
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